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IN BED WITH TIMBERLINA: Crushing on workmates, bondage and wayward wrappers

It’s time to welcome back the queen of the Newcastle drag scene, Timberlina, to After Dark for some more boudoir advice.

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WRAPPER IN WARATAH

I’ve been seeing a guy for a few months now. While I was at his place a few weekends ago, I noticed a condom wrapper that was definitely not ours in his bedroom. I figured that maybe it was just from a one night stand, and I can’t get mad over it since I had one, too. But now I’m starting to have feelings for him. Should I bring it up, or should I just let it go?

Should you bring up the condom that was in the bedroom? No – Because you both are still having one night stands.

Should you bring up the feelings that you’re having for him? 100%! Otherwise you’re going to get hurt so you need to have that conversation and maybe he feels the same and if he doesn’t, I think it’s probably best for you to move on because you’re going to get hurt at the end of the day, and you can’t have that.

If you’re going to make the decision, both of you, that you’re going to be exclusive, then great. Do that. But you can’t stress over a used condom and feel jealous in territorial over that if you’re doing it too. So it’s probably time to have the talk. It does come around in every relationship. It can sometimes be an awkward one. And you don’t want to burst the bubble. But if you’re starting to have feelings for him and you let this go too much longer, you are setting yourself up for hurt.

CRUSHING IN CARRINGTON

I’ve developed a major work crush on a guy that I work pretty directly with at a new job. We text outside of work and have gone out for drinks. But I can’t exactly tell if there’s a vibe or if I’m seeing more into it because I want to. I’d like to ask him out, but I’m worried if he shoots me down, it could make work awkward. Do I go for it?

Work relationships never work.

I think maybe you’re just fantasising in your head. I’ve done it so many times, but as my mother says, so succinctly, don’t shit in your own nest.

We all have great relationships at work with people we’re with for eight hours a day. Of course, they’re going to be very important people to us, but if it doesn’t work out and you have to deal with him every day, that will be a whole world of pain.

So have a think about how important your job is because if this goes south, you’re not going to be able to cope with a work environment. So have a real hard think about it and maybe just fantasise over it.

BONDAGE IN BERESFORD

How do I tell my girlfriend that I want to tie her up during sex?

Have the conversation. It’s all about communication in a relationship, right?

Get a reading on her and bring it to the table in a respectful way and make sure that you’ve done your homework on consent. Definitely talk about it and how you’ll do it and how they will be like code words and all that kind of stuff.

Perhaps putting some finesse into it if she’s someone that loves romance.


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